1. Disconnect from the affair - The first and most harmful relationship to your healing process is if you are still connected to the individual you had the affair with. This should be common sense, but you would be surprised how many individuals think it is okay to stay connected.
  2. Focus on your own healing first - For true healing to take place in the relationship, it is important that each individual get the help they respectfully need. You can’t be so focused on your partner that you abandon your own needs. Take care of you first.
  3. Counseling - We highly recommend getting help from a counselor that specializes in infidelity counseling. Sadly, not all counselors, pastors or church leaders are qualified to deal with matters on infidelity and may not offer you the right guidance.
  4. Disconnect from all toxic relationships- You must be very careful who you keep company with when you are trying to heal your marriage. Sometimes, friends mean well, but they can offer the worst advice.
  5. Both parties need to do the work - Healing from infidelity is possible, but it’s a lot of work. Both parties need to want it and actively participate in the process of doing the work needed to find healing and reconciliation.
  6. Men and women heal differently - The healing process can get tough as you journey to healing, there are going to be times it gets intense and emotional. When this happens, don’t assume you are not making progress if you or your spouse want to talk about it.
  7. Rehearsing the details - This is a tricky one because I’ve heard that some counselors discourage talking about the details of the affair. However, those who are trained in infidelity counseling agree with what we are about to say. READ THE BOOK FOR MORE INFORMATION.
  8. Be transparent - Trust was broken and it is going to take time for that trust to be earned again. The best way to do that is to make sure you are being transparent with your spouse. There should be no more secrets.
  9. Protect your children - On your journey to healing, we highly recommend that you make it your absolute priority to protect your children and their little hearts.
  10. Be patient and do not give up - If you are struggling with the effects of an extramarital affair we know how exhausting it can be to journey to healing, but we want to encourage you, be patient, and don’t give up.


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